Is There a Good Way to Fire Someone? No, But Don’t Do It By Phone


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If there’s one thing that struck me this week about the firing of Yahoo CEO Carol Bartz, it’s this: Why would you fire a person, especially a CEO, over the phone, especially when you could do it in person?
This is something I know a little about because, yes, believe it or not, I had to do it once when I couldn’t be in two places at one time.
The Wall Street Journal had a story this week about how to fire someone — titled Bad Call: How Not to Dismiss an Employee — and it was instructive not only because it was spun out of how the Yahoo Board handled the termination of their CEO, but because it had a laundry list of many of the things you absolutely don’t want to do when you are firing someone.
Here are a few of the “don’ts” the Journal listed:
Those are all things you shouldn’t do, but what about what you SHOULD do when you have to fire someone?
As someone who has done his fair share of terminations, they never, ever, are something you get used to, nor does the process get any easier the more you do it. That’s because it is one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do in life, and unless you are less-than-human yourself, you most always find yourself thinking, as you are doing it, “this could be happening to me.”
The fact is, many people get terminated for reasons that have nothing to do with their job performance — as we have seen all too often during the mass layoffs and cutbacks that define the Great Recession.
I’ve written about this topic many times, and it never gets old because, well, too many people never seem to figure out how to terminate someone with tact and sensitivity. Here’s what I said about that back in 2007, on another blog, in Firing is a One-on-One Activity:
There’s only one right way to fire a person — in person, face to face, supervisor to worker. There’s a reason for this, and it’s simple: It should be handled that way because management should be forced to personally confront the consequences of its actions.
I don’t know any good manager who likes firing people, but unfortunately, it’s part of the job. Hopefully, it doesn’t happen often, but when it does, you owe it to the person you are firing to sit them down and tell them the reasons why.
Can you do it by phone? Well, yes, but that should only be used in an extremely unusual or exceptional circumstance. I’ve had to travel across the country on occasion to discharge a remotely based worker in person, and although I hated having to do it, I always felt it was a trip worth making. Why? Well, when you have to fire someone in person, you find that you are a lot less willing to consider doing it in the abstract. And that’s why doing it by e-mail or phone is a cop-out. It dehumanizes a process that is pretty inhuman to begin with.
Taking a person’s job away, for whatever reason, is one of the worst things you can do to another human. Doing it in person doesn’t make it better, but it does make it more personal and is one small thing that can help the departing person walk away with some small measure of dignity.”
The one time I had to fire — actually, lay off — a person by phone, it was because they were out on long term disability, lived the better part of 100 miles away from the office, and I had to be on the opposite side of the country laying off some other employees at the same time. I felt it was better, given the circumstances, that I be the one who was doing it to my staffer rather than some anonymous corporate HR person they had never met. So, I did it over the phone, as unfortunate as that was.
I didn’t like doing a layoff that way, and in fact, I didn’t like doing it at all, but if you are going to be a manager, and executive, and HR pro, that sort of thing comes with the territory.
Yahoo’s dismissal of Carol Bartz over the phone just proves, once again, that even board members at a Fortune 500 company can be terribly inept, clumsy, and just plain clueless when it comes to matters that require sensitivity and compassion.
Given all the talk surrounding Yahoo, don’t be surprised if those same board members get to experience being on the other side of the termination table sometime very soon. If it happens, my guess is that it won’t be done by phone.